While most folks take in their cars regularly for tune ups, or themselves in for annual physicals, they oftentimes neglect to diagnose trouble spots in their marriage before a crisis hits. Crisis’ in marriages most often do not happen overnight. However, they are a result of weeks, months, and years of unhealthy relational patterns. If…
Couples Should Make Sure To Focus On Preparing For Their Marriage, Not Just Preparing For Their Wedding
As soon as the proposal pictures are posted on social media, couples typically turn their focus solely on wedding details for the next six months to a year. Unfortunately, most couples spend a tremendous amount of time, money, energy and effort making sure they have the picture perfect wedding. However, they do not spend the…
3 Tips for Engaged Couples Who Think They Are Incompatible
Throughout my sessions, I have a variety of questions that I ask my career counseling clients. Typically, I spend the first half hour of my sessions diving into five specific questions which can reveal clues as to what potential careers would be the best fit for my clients. The first question I typically ask is,…
How We Can Daydreams And Night Dreams: How God Uses Both Types In The Career Exploration Process
The instrument that I utilize with engaged couples, Prepare & Enrich, reveals areas of compatibility and incompatibility within the relationship. Sometimes couples whose assessment scores indicate that they have considerably more areas of incompatibility, can be discouraged when I reveal these results. I have three tips that I implement when working with these, oftentimes, concerned…
How We Can Already Be On Our Career Exploration Path Without Knowing It
Oftentimes, we are perplexed and overwhelmed with the daunting task of finding a new career. What we do not realize is that sometimes we are already walking on a career new path but do not recognize it. For example, right before I decided to jump back into the career counseling field, I realized that I…
Where The Enemy Attacks Can Be A Sign For Your Career Path
Is there an area in your life or a specific skillset that the enemy is attacking as you contemplate a career change? This exact thing could be an indication as to where the Lord is going to promote you next. For example, years ago I took a week to pray about homeschooling my daughters. During…
The Number One Thing To Do Before Contemplating A Career Change
The number one thing to do before contemplating a career change is to pray. After my clients have booked an appointment, I ask them first and foremost to begin praying and seeking God on what He has to say about the career exploration process. I oftentimes encourage them to spend time in prayer, fasting, and…
Too Tired/Busy to Connect…..think again!
Sometimes barriers toward intimacy cause as many divorces as fights and hostility do. Intimacy is tough. It is hard to bare all in front of another person. It can be excruciating to let down our armor and really admit to how we feel, where we are weak, where we have failed, and how much we…
Conflict Resolution Skills
The ability to successfully developing conflict resolution skills depends on four key skills. Together, these four skills form a fifth skill that is greater than the sum of its parts: the ability to take conflict in stride and resolve differences in ways that build trust and confidence. Conflict resolution skill 1: Quickly relieve stress The capacity to remain relaxed and focused in tense situations is a vital aspect of conflict resolution. If you don’t know how to stay centered and in control of yourself, you may…